5 Habits that Could Ruin Your Marriage

Every marriage experiences problems at some point, no matter how long you have been married. When in the midst of marriage problems it can be intense, confusing, loney and painful.  The hurt can cut deep, but it doesn’t have to take years to heal!

Many wives going through marriage issues feel so angry, hopeless and sad! They blame their husbands for their unhappiness. I hear them say, if he would change then things would be better. A very common scenario!

When in this stage of your marriage, many women blame their husband’s for the downfall of their marriage.

And in an attempt to get your husband to change you may…

  1. Blame your husband for your unhappiness.
  2. Take his behaviours and comments personally and retaliate with unkind words.
  3. Tell him to change.
  4. Become a helicopter spouse and check his phone.
  5. Judge his opinions and argue that he is wrong.

As you know, these behaviors hurt  marriages. 

But it’s not too late to change these bad habits. 

The key is to work on yourself first!  Emotions such as anger, guilt, sadness or jealousy may be triggered by your partner’s words or actions.

When these emotions emerge, they are  massive clues that show you where inner work needs to be done.

Often wives are triggered because they don’t feel heard, seen, loved, safe, or that things are equal. So the root of being triggered often stems from a memory where you felt a similar emotion.

In order to not feel triggered by your partner’s words or actions, you need to heal the associated memory. So, how do you figure out which memory is associated with each trigger? It takes some detective work!

Find a quiet spot, grab a journal and try asking yourself: “Has anyone from my past made me feel like this (parents, loved ones, ex-partners, friends)”?  Or “Can I think of a time I felt this way in childhood or in past relationships?”

Once you have healed that aspect of yourself, you will feel more grounded & confident (even in those situations that used to be triggering).

The secret is to create a safe space within your internal world.

  • Increase your self worth & self-love
  • Release Anger, Jealousy & Resentment
  • Always listen to your intuition
  • Set Boundaries
  • See your husband as your greatest teacher (helping you to heal your inner child)
  • And so many more!!!

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