Intimate Relationship

7 Signs You’re In An Intimate Relationship, According To Experts

Loving someone and being in an intimate relationship don’t always go hand and hand. Maybe you love your husband, but you’re not comfortable sharing your deepest fears, worries, and insecurities with him. Is that an intimate relationship?

Intimacy goes beyond just physical attraction or affection. It’s a special bond. But how can you tell if you’re truly in one? Maybe you were in an intimate relationship before, but infidelity happened. Is there something you can do to bring intimacy back?

Read on as we show you seven signs of intimacy in a relationship. We’ll also share some tips on how to bring back an intimate relationship!

Signs You’re in an Intimate Relationship

Knowing the signs of an intimate relationship are important for every couple. This helps you maintain your relationship or improve it if you’re not in one yet. Here are some signs that can help you determine if you’re in an intimate marriage with your husband:

1. You feel a strong connection to your husband.

Feeling a strong emotional connection to your husband is first on our list. 

Are you looking forward to your small talk over coffee every day? Or your chit-chat in bed?

When you’re in an intimate relationship, you feel a deep sense of attachment and closeness to your husband. You enjoy spending time with him and look forward to sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. You feel comfortable being vulnerable. 

Whether you’re sharing your hopes and dreams, or discussing your fears and insecurities, you feel safe and secure knowing that your husband is there for you. 

This strong emotional connection is a hallmark of an intimate relationship. It’s also one of the many reasons why they are meaningful and fulfilling.

2. You make time for each other and prioritize your marriage.

couple that’s spending quality time together

If you’re in an intimate relationship, you’re committed to spending quality time with each other. You also make your relationship a priority. 

You can’t have an intimate relationship when you can’t even find time to talk privately.

This means you put effort into planning dates, spending time together, and creating shared experiences. You prioritize each other’s needs. 

Whether it’s through small gestures like sending a thoughtful text message or planning a surprise dinner. Couples in intimate relationships make efforts to spend time together and strengthen their bond. 

By prioritizing your relationship, you demonstrate your commitment to each other. This also creates a foundation of trust and support that can sustain you throughout your marriage.

3. You can share your deepest thoughts, fears, and dreams with your husband.

Being able to share your deepest thoughts, fears, and dreams with your husband is a clear sign that you are in an intimate relationship. 

You feel comfortable opening up to your husband and sharing your most vulnerable self. You trust your husband to hold your feelings with care, without judgment or criticism. You can talk about your fears, hopes, and dreams without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. 

Your husband listens actively and empathetically and lets you explore your innermost thoughts and feelings. Being able to share in this way helps you deepen your emotional connection, increase your mutual understanding, and strengthen your bond. 

It also creates a sense of intimacy that nurtures you through the ups and downs of marriage.

4. You trust your husband and feel secure in the relationship.

This could be the most important aspect of an intimate relationship—trust. How can you be intimate with a person you don’t trust? Right?

When you trust your husband, you feel a sense of security and comfort in the relationship. You know you can rely on him to be there for you, to support you, and to be honest with you. 

You don’t have to worry about him betraying your trust or breaking your heart. Instead, you can focus on building a strong and healthy relationship together, based on mutual respect and understanding. 

When you feel this level of trust and security with your husband, it’s a sign that you’re in a truly intimate and meaningful relationship.

Take a look at how a lack of trust can break your intimacy:

Emotional distance

When you doubt your husband, you may feel emotionally distant. When you worry that your husband is having an affair, you may become closed off and avoid sharing intimate details about your day or your feelings. This can create a sense of disconnect and isolation.


If you’re always checking your husband’s phone or social media accounts, it can create tension and lead to arguments. This can further erode intimacy.


If your husband is keeping secrets, it can erode trust and lead to feelings of betrayal. This can make it difficult to be open and honest with each other, which can further damage intimacy.


If you’re always accusing your husband of lying or being unfaithful, it can cause anger and frustration. That makes it difficult to be intimate and loving. This can lead to a breakdown in communication and a lack of intimacy in your marriage.

5. You laugh together.

couple laughing together

Laughter is an important ingredient in any intimate relationship, and for good reason. 

Whether it’s over a funny joke, a silly movie, or just a shared moment of joy, laughter is a sign that you enjoy each other’s company. When you can laugh together, it can help you make even the most challenging situations feel more bearable.

Here are some of the reasons why laughter is so important in an intimate marriage:

  • It creates a positive atmosphere
  • It reduces stress
  • It strengthens the bond
  • It enhances communication as it creates a relaxed and open atmosphere

6. You have a meaningful and fulfilling physical connection.

While it’s equally important, a fulfilling physical connection is not just about sex. It can also include other types of physical touch and connection. This can include holding hands, cuddling, massages, and other forms of non-sexual intimacy.

It’s about how much of each other’s time you want to spend together. Try the following:

Affectionate gestures

Little gestures of affection like kissing goodbye in the morning, leaving a love note, or giving a surprise gift can help make your husband feel loved and appreciated. Show the world that you’re proud of him!

Emotional intimacy

This involves sharing your feelings, thoughts, and fears with your husband. It can involve deep conversations, active listening, and being supportive and empathetic toward each other.

Physical touch

It’s a powerful way to connect with your husband. This can include holding hands, hugging, cuddling, or giving a massage.

Quality time

Spending quality time together can help build intimacy. Do you love to cook? Prepare breakfast in bed or a steak night! Go on a walk, watch a movie, or just sit together and talk.

Communicate your desires

Don’t be afraid to discuss what you like and don’t like in bed and what you’d like to try. Having open and honest communication can lead to a deeper understanding of each other and can help you both feel more connected. 

You’re the only person with the right to satisfy your husband, so make sure he’s getting that from you, and vice versa.

7. You feel a deep sense of love and affection toward your husband.

When you feel this way, it’s as if your heart is overflowing with love and gratitude for the person you have chosen to spend your life with. 

You feel a sense of warmth and safety when you are with him. You share a bond that goes beyond physical attraction. You have built a relationship on a foundation of trust, respect, and mutual understanding.  

This deep sense of love and affection brings you both a sense of peace and contentment, knowing that you have each other to rely on no matter what life throws your way.

When you feel this kind of deep connection with your husband, you know you are in an intimate relationship built to last. 

You cherish every moment you spend together and look forward to the years ahead, knowing you will continue to grow and strengthen your bond as a couple.

Are you in an intimate relationship?

If you recognize these signs in your marriage, then you are likely in an intimate relationship with your husband. If you are not currently experiencing these signs, don’t worry. It’s never too late to build intimacy in your relationship, and there are many ways to work on building a stronger emotional connection with your husband.

If you need help building intimacy in your relationship, there are many resources available, including marriage counseling and self-help books. 

Remember, you can build intimacy in your marriage. It is possible! You just need to know how.

So, if you want to experience a deeper level of intimacy in your marriage, don’t give up hope!Take action today and start working on building a stronger emotional connection with your partner. Book a call today!

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