A Promising Approach to Saving a Marriage

A Promising Approach to Saving a Marriage

Often couples skip this strategy when working on repairing a marriage.

Let’s break down this strategy using my client “Suzy’s” experience…

My client “Suzy” thought she was going to die.  Well… maybe that’s a bit dramatic! But it’s kind of true. 

Her marriage was so BAD that…

She struggled with normal stuff like breathing. 

She woke up with puffy eyes from crying so much!

If it wasn’t for her kids, she wouldn’t get out of bed. 

QUESTIONS LIKE… “What could I have done better?” would creep into her mind!

Every day was tough! Her future seemed scary and uncertain!

However….

It’s actually the opposite!! 

Her life was everything but uncertain!

Her dysfunctional marriage was a window! A window into her heart and soul!

All those yucky feelings were “the exact things” that would heal her pain!

When we first met, I asked her to start tracking her emotions for 48-hours. 

She wrote down when she felt..

  • Sad
  • Angry Resentful
  • Shame
  • Frustration

And she recorded EACH trigger & EACH emotion. 

These feelings/triggers were her body’s way of communicating what she needed! 

THE FEELINGS WERE TELLING HER…

  • I am so inadequate 
  • I am not safe
  •  I can’t get what I want 
  • I can’t trust anyone
  •  I don’t deserve ____

She began showing up more effectively in her marriage!

In subtle ways… she slowly eroded feeling unlovable, needy, like a failure and insecure. 

It NEVER fails!

My clients always come out feeling happier and more certain about their future!

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