How to Manage Obsessive Thoughts in Your Marriage

How to Manage Obsessive Thoughts in Your Marriage

Did your partner cheat on you? 

Are you sometimes overcome by anger for what seems like “no” reason?

Intrusive thoughts after infidelity are a common and extremely painful symptom of what has been called Post Infidelity Stress Disorder.

Often these thoughts come from the “need to know” exactly what happened between your husband and the affair partner.

In order to heal and trust, you feel like you need to know everything, right down to a granular level of every detail. 

Until you take steps to grapple and control these thoughts, they will hinder the speed of your recovery.

Do you ever think- “I’m losing my mind.”

Thoughts such as… 

  • “I keep thinking- does he love her more than me!”
  • “What did they do together?”
  • “Why did he do this to me and our family?”
  • “It’s so unfair, I didn’t ask for this!”

Here’s the thing… unwanted, lower vibe thoughts will keep you stuck.

Physically-

  • Negative thoughts cause stress which causes the release of cortisol (stress hormone).
  • Overtime cortisol weakens your immune response.   
  • Chronic stress can decrease your lifespan.

On the flip side … 

Thoughts can make you really well! Researchers suspect that people who are more positive may be better protected against the inflammatory damage of stress.  Another possibility is that hope and positivity help people make better health and life decisions and focus more on long-term goals.

So how do you stop the thoughts? Here is how….

Take control back over them by releasing the emotions from past events that you are still carrying around!

Try these Journaling Prompts-

Stream of Consciousness Writing

Set a timer for about 5-10 minutes. Write down whatever comes to your mind (right, wrong, good or bad). It doesn’t need to be legible. Do not worry if it makes any sense whatsoever, do not try to interrupt your thoughts. Don’t edit it. You never need to read it again. You can burn it after.

Write a Letter

Write a letter that is not to be read by others. This process can be cathartic.  The letter can be to your spouse or the affair partner. Write down all the things that you want to say “unfiltered”. Tell the person what you are going through.  Write about what you are feeling.

READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP, AND END OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS?

Book your Complimentary 15 minute “Marriage Roadmap” call where I will give you a strategy that you can implement right away to get your marriage moving in the direction you need to do to save your marriage fast. That’s it.
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