How to Save a Failing Marriage Alone

How to Save a Failing Marriage Alone

Marriage is a beautiful journey, but we all know it can be challenging. When two people get married, they vow to be together for better or worse, but sometimes the worse can be really tough. Many marriages end in divorce, but that doesn’t have to be the only solution. If you feel like your marriage is failing and you want to save it, it’s possible to do it alone. In this article, we’ll discuss some tips on how to save a failing marriage alone.

1. Identify the Problem

The first step in saving a failing marriage is to get curious.  Often we think we can identify the problem, but usually there are multiple problems. And some of these are buried deeper below the surface. 

For example- there could be several reasons why your marriage is failing, such as lack of communication, infidelity, financial issues, or simply growing apart. You need to understand the root cause of the problem before you can start working on it. Take some time to reflect on your marriage and try to pinpoint the issue.

2. Take Responsibility

Once you have identified the problem, it’s time to take responsibility for your part in it. It’s easy to blame your partner for everything that’s wrong in your marriage, but that won’t help you save it. 

You need to look at the version of you that has been showing up each day. Is this the best you? This doesn’t mean that you have to take all the blame, but it’s important to take responsibility for your actions. By acknowledging your mistakes, you can then take control of your marriage’s destiny. 

3. Improve Communication

We all know that communication is the key to a successful marriage. If your marriage is failing, it’s probably because of a lack of communication. You need to improve your communication skills if you want to save your marriage. 

Start by looking at how your communicate.  What is your body language like?  What kind of tone do you use?  How does your partner interpret your words?  Do you feel heard and understood?

Then it is time to share with your partner how you want to change and be different in conversations.  Such as listening to your partner’s perspective and trying to understand their point of view without interrupting. Make an effort to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

4. Focus on the Positive

When your marriage is failing, it’s easy to focus on the negative aspects of your relationship. However, this will only make things worse. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. The vibration that you put out there will attract a vibration of positivity.  And if your husband is not the source of positivity, you can work on setting healthy personal boundaries so you stop letting his bad moods influence your mood.

Remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place and try to rekindle that spark. Focus on the things you appreciate about your partner and make an effort to show them your love and appreciation.

5. Be Patient

Saving a failing marriage is not an overnight process. It is a journey, and can be a beautiful journey of self discovery and empowerment.  But it takes time and effort to rebuild a relationship. Don’t expect things to change overnight. Be patient and committed to the process. 

With each new belief and strategy that you start to integrate into your daily life, it needs time to reinforce and become automatic. If you’re willing to put in the work, you can save your marriage.

6. Take Care of Yourself

It’s important to take care of yourself when you’re trying to save a failing marriage. This means taking care of your physical and emotional health. Make time for self-care activities, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends. Taking care of yourself will help you stay positive and focused on your goal of saving your marriage.

7. Be Open to Change

If you want to save your marriage, you need to be open to change. This means being willing to change your behavior and habits if they’re contributing to the problem. You also need to be open to your partner’s suggestions and be willing to compromise. Change is not always easy, but it’s necessary if you want to save your marriage.

8. Don’t Give up

Saving a failing marriage is not easy, and there will be times when you feel like giving up. However, it’s important to remember why you’re working so hard.

Stay in the present and remember that you want to give your marriage one more try, and become the best version of yourself.

Don’t give up on your relationship, even if things are difficult right now. With persistence and hard work, you can build a strong and healthy relationship with your partner.

9. Show Empathy

Empathy is crucial in any relationship, but especially in a failing marriage. Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and understand their perspective. Show them that you care about their feelings and that you’re willing to work on the relationship together.

10. Make Time For Each Other

One of the reasons why marriages fail is because couples drift apart. Make an effort to spend quality time with your partner, whether it’s going on a date night or simply spending time at home together. Make sure to turn off your phones and other distractions so you can focus on each other.

11. Practice Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful tool in any relationship. If your marriage is failing because of past mistakes, it’s important to practice forgiveness. This doesn’t mean that you should forget what happened, but it means that you’re willing to move forward and let go of the past.

12. Work On Yourself

This strategy should actually be #1 in this article. If you want to save your marriage, it’s important to work on yourself as well. This means improving your own habits and behaviors that may be contributing to the problem. Work on your own personal growth and development so that you can be the best version of yourself.

13. Be Honest

Honesty is key in any relationship, and it’s especially important when you’re trying to save a failing marriage. Be honest with yourself and your partner about your feelings and what you want from the relationship. This will help you both work towards a common goal.

14 . Be Willing to Compromise

Compromise is essential in any relationship, and it’s especially important when you’re trying to save a failing marriage. Be willing to meet your partner halfway and find a solution that works for both of you. This may mean making sacrifices, but it’s worth it if it means saving your marriage.

In conclusion, saving a failing marriage alone is possible, but it takes time, effort, and patience. It’s important to identify the problem, take responsibility, improve communication, seek professional help if needed, focus on the positive, be patient, take care of yourself, be open to change, show empathy, make time for each other, practice forgiveness, work on yourself, be honest, and be willing to compromise. By following these tips, you can work towards saving your marriage and rebuilding a strong and healthy relationship with your partner.

15. Focus on the Present

While it’s important to acknowledge past mistakes and issues in your marriage, it’s equally important to focus on the present. Don’t dwell on the past or bring up old arguments – focus on what you can do right now to improve your relationship.

16. Prioritize Intimacy

Intimacy is an important aspect of any marriage, and it’s often one of the first things to go when a relationship starts to fail. Make an effort to prioritize intimacy with your partner, whether that means physical intimacy or emotional intimacy. This will help you feel closer and more connected to each other.

17. Find Common Interests

If you and your partner have grown apart, it can be helpful to find common interests that you can both enjoy together. This will give you something to bond over and can help reignite your connection.

18. Practice Active Listening

Communication is key in any relationship, but it’s not just about talking – it’s also about listening. Practice active listening by really focusing on what your partner is saying, asking questions to clarify, and repeating back what they’ve said to show that you understand.

19. Set Boundaries

Boundaries are important in any relationship, and they’re especially important when you’re trying to save a failing marriage. Set clear boundaries with your partner about what you will and won’t tolerate in the relationship. This will help establish trust and respect between you.

Have you sought professional help?

Marriage coaching is a safe and supportive space to explore your individual needs and desires, as well as to identify any underlying issues that may be impacting your relationship. 

By working with me, you can gain valuable insight into your communication patterns and develop effective strategies for communicating your needs and desires in a way that aligns with your love language.

While seeking professional help can be a valuable tool for improving your relationship and building a stronger foundation for long-term happiness and fulfillment. 

So why wait? Book a call today and take the first step toward building the relationship you’ve always wanted!


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