my husband won't go to marriage counseling

When Your Husband Won’t Go to Therapy

Is your partner refusing to go to therapy?  Does he not feel comfortable sharing your marriage struggles with a stranger? Or maybe he feels like the counselor will gang up on him? Does he not think your marriage struggles are that “bad”?

So if your husband won’t go to Couples Therapy, the good news is that your  marriage is not doomed? Regardless of his reasons, there is hope?

If one spouse is not interested in going to couples counseling there is still hope that a marriage can be saved/repaired! 

Arguments with your husband often become repetitive and cyclical!  And it can seem nearly impossible to break free of these unhealthy patterns without support!

If this is you, it can be so frustrating! So, I want to reassure you that you can save your marriage even without going to counseling! You can absolutely shift your marriage into the happy zone by simply show-up differently in your marriage! 

How can I save my marriage without going to counseling?  Well, you work through your own triggers in the quiet of your own home.

One partner has the power to profoundly change a marriage for the better by doing the inner work, even if the other partner isn’t on board! 

Journal the answers to these questions-
  • What actions or words are triggering me?
  • What emotions am I feeling?
  • At a deeper level do I believe what he is saying or doing to be true about me?
  • Are these words or actions making me feel like- I am not good enough, not loved, not heard or other ways?
  • Has anyone else in my past made me feel like this (parents, loved ones, ex-partners, friends)
  • Can I think of a time I felt this way? (childhood, past relationship)

Once you have processed and released inner child wounds, traumas, limiting beliefs picked up from society/family/education/religion, you won’t feel triggered by your partner’s words, tone, past or actions. 

It’s magical (but rooted in psychology and neuroscience). 


This is exactly what I show my private clients how to do. If you would like my 1-on-1 help creating a customized Free Marriage Roadmap, then book your Complimentary 15-minute “Marriage Roadmap” call where I will give you a strategy that you can implement right away to get your marriage moving in the direction you need to do to save your marriage fast. That’s it.
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